About me...
"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset I don't find myself saying, 'soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner...' I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds." - Carl Rogers
Helen Huston, MNZAC Therapist
"Children are not things to be molded, but are people to be unfolded." - Jess Lair
Born and raised on the outskirts of London, I came to NZ with my young family in 2001. After 10 years of being a full time mum, I resumed my counselling studies and discovered various ways of working that I feel are particularly good for children and young people.
I love walking in nature, exercising of various forms and stepping into the unknown.
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I also love helping children, young people and their parents, befriend, understand and regulate their emotions so that they can reunite with their capable, resourceful, life giving potential and live life more fully.
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Below is my first story book about dealing with Worries
I see children as -
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Bundles of joy awaiting their very own, beautiful, bountiful, wondrous unfolding towards their unique, life-giving potential
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Being delightfully in tune with their wiring/their need to be embedded in safe, loving respectful relationships for this delicate unfolding to occur
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Being instinctively driven to ensure they receive this love and security, in the best way that they can.
I view a child's behaviour as -
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Their way of trying to communicate a need for love and security (or maybe food and sleep!!) and not them “behaving badly.”
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I see children as teachers that can show us how to love.​
​My view of children...​
I see teenagers as experiencing -
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A time of noticing, working out, exploring and often struggling with their unique unfolding
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A time of grappling with ideas, beliefs and values
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A time of feeling vulnerable as they emerge as their own person
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A time of temptation to soothe the discomfort of this process and become 'like others' rather than unique in themselves
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A time of much needed space and nurture, of courage and understanding to step out with solidity in all their uniqueness.
My view of teenagers...​
I see parents as -
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Being uniquely positioned to being able to meet their children's needs
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Having the greatest opportunity to allow this beautiful, unique unfolding to occur.
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Remarkable facilitators of mental well being, emotional health and resilience
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Potentially having the hardest and most rewarding job that life can offer
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The best source of protection of the development of their child's self esteem.
My view of the role of parents...
I see my role as a parenting consultant as -
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Empowering you to facilitate this healthy growth and development in your child
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To equip you to bring your child to a place of rest where they don't have to call out for their needs through behaviours that might push you away
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To enable you to enjoy a rewarding, life giving, loving relationship with your child and delight in the beauty of their uniqueness.
My role as a consultant to parents...
I am driven by -
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The power that healthy, loving relationships hold in enabling one's natural drive toward maturity and emotional development, wholeness and well-being. This is at the heart of all my practice, and is foundational to what I believe is the key to raising resilient, content children and enjoying harmonious relationships.
I see my role as therapist therefore as providing a nurturing safe space-
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Where your young person can explore, express and reunite with their life-giving, ample, unfolding potential.
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Where they can work through difficulties that might be hindering this healthy development and which might be temporarily leading them to lose sight of their own life-giving source and potential, their inner wealth of wisdom and capability, their giftedness and purpose, and their wondrous design.
My role as a therapist...
"​The fact is that people are good. Give people affection and security, and they will give affection and be secure in their feelings and their behaviour." - Abraham Maslow